The Dance of Intimacy
To grow in intimacy you have to first value yourself as a partner before you can express intimacy with anyone else.
Sharing intimacy is your ability to let someone “in” to fully know and appreciate all aspects of yourself; not just the pretty, together looking parts of yourself but also the weak, fearful and, yes, the ignorant aspects of yourself.
It may sound simple but intimacy with another person – a spouse, relative, friend or co-worker – hinges on your ability to love yourself.
It’s scary to expose your unknown “dark” areas to someone else. It means exposing a part of yourself to the light.
If you believe you love yourself and yet you have led in partners or friends who don’t choose to love themselves, ask yourself where your self esteem is? Why have you chosen someone who can’t give back to you?
More often than not in life, others are mirrors of us.
Intimacy is a two-way street – otherwise it’s just a game.
Don’t be upset if you have people who bring up reactions in you (unless, of course, they are being self-destructive or harming you or others). People in our lives are God’s way of letting you see and identify what patterns or habits that need to be changed.
It’s OK to be single too. It takes a lot of self love and working on yourself to attract a partner that is similar to you. There’s no fooling God.
If you want to know how you are as a partner in intimacy, listen and watch yourself for a week and see how you treat you.
Be in your third-eye and just observe
- Are you nurturing to yourself?
- How do you respond to your own mistakes?
- Do you compare yourself with other people?
- What do you see and say when you look in the mirror?
Self-Love: The Key to Successful Interpersonal Relationships
Success in our interpersonal relationships begins with our ability to love ourselves. If you don’t love yourself you can’t love anybody else. In addition, if you don’t love yourself you’ll have many insecurities and fears and you’ll misread the actions and words of those around you. In order to both give and receive love fully, you have to feel worthy of love from within, both the male and female aspects of yourself. If you have a basic dislike of women, it means that you are rejecting your own femininity. If you have a basic dislike of men, you are uncomfortable with your own masculine nature.
Loving yourself is one of the hardest things in the world to do. Most of us think we are loving ourselves, but when we really get down to the basics we don’t even know who we are. It’s pretty hard to love someone, especially yourself, if you don’t know who you are in the first place.
The amazing truth is that no one can give you love. It can’t come from anyone or anything out there. It comes from within. You don’t have to go out and look for love, you don’t have to hope for it or wish for it. You generate it yourself. When you begin tuning into that infinite reservoir of love and well-being within you, the God-self within you, then your universe, your world, unfolds in love. Because that’s what you are. Love is that energy that unites all of us, and when you begin to create this love from within, you aren’t alone anymore.
Other Relationship subjects
If you would like to hear Betty speak about Relationships, links to four audio downloads on the subject are available and listed below.
Improving Relationships
By Betty Bethards
$18.00
Betty Bethards is speaking live in this historical recording about improving interpersonal relationships. Personal relationships are tough for all of us. We are the mirror for everyone and everyone is a mirror for us. Betty gives step-by-step suggestions to help us with our difficult relationships.
Betty teaches that God leads people into our lives in order to trigger us to react. So when you get triggered, ask yourself what is my positive lesson, how did I set it up and what do I need to do to change it so I don’t have to keep doing this. Your thoughts, words and actions create your reality. Meditation helps to get your energy up so that you can see and hear what is going on and therefore fix your problems and change. Betty teaches that your lessons will keep repeating until you learn them.
Betty’s publications and lectures have helped millions of people in their search for self-knowledge. You can feel Betty’s energy coming through the recordings and her wisdom on improving relationships is timeless.
Each seminar has two recordings: Side 1 and Side 2. This seminar is available in two .wav files.
- Each seminar is $18.00/title
- If you are interested in all 23 titles, the price will be $269.00 (35% discount).
Interpersonal Relationships and Communication
By Betty Bethards
$18.00
Betty Bethards is speaking in this historical recording to a live audience about interpersonal relationships and communication. Throughout our entire life we are interacting with people and communication is essential. Betty gives us tools and insights on how to help ourselves connect with people or when we need to separate from certain people.
All anger is really hurt. More often than not, our issues are us doing things to ourselves or allowing others to control us. Throughout our entire life we are interacting with people and Betty helps to give tips and insights into how to get along better with people. She was a life coach before being a life coach was in vogue. She is funny and very uplifting. Betty talks truth – you can just feel it in your gut when she talks or when you read one of her books. Thoughts are things – negative thoughts give you a negative outlook. If you come from love and humor, you can change your outlook and change your life. As events happen around you ask yourself what is your positive lesson, how did you set it up and what do you need to change it so you don’t have to keep doing it again.
You can feel Betty’s energy coming through the recordings and her wisdom on interpersonal relationships and communication with people is timeless. People have said that they listen to her seminars over and over and learn something new every time.
Each seminar has two recordings: Side 1 and Side 2. This seminar is available in two .wav files.
- Each seminar is $18.00/title
- If you are interested in all 23 titles, the price will be $269.00 (35% discount).
Marriage Problems and Divorce
By Betty Bethards
$18.00
This live, historical recording is Betty Bethards speaking about marriage problems and divorce. Having issues with your partner can be devastating. Betty gives tips and tells real life stories about how we can stop setting up our life to be triggered or fail.
She gets questions from the audience and responds in very down-to-earth ways. Betty promotes affirmations and visualization, meditation and using our dreams to help ourselves to be on a path to self-understanding and enlightenment. Understanding yourself helps with every relationship we have in life. When events happen ask yourself what is my positive lesson, how did I set it up and what do I need to change it so I don’t have to keep doing this again.
You can feel Betty’s energy coming through the recording and her wisdom on Marriage Problems and Divorce is timeless. People have said that they listen to her seminars over and over and learn something new every time.
Each seminar has two recordings: Side 1 and Side 2. This seminar is available in two .wav files.
- Each seminar is $18.00/title
- If you are interested in all 23 titles, the price will be $269.00 (35% discount).
Relationships in the New Age
By Betty Bethards
$18.00
This is a live recording of Betty Bethards speaking about Relationships in the new age. Betty has honest, down-to-earth examples and talks about different situations to give us insight into why we are here on the earth plane. We chose to be here this lifetime. Everything in life is a choice. We all have to learn how to control and have responsibility for our lives in order to have better relationships. If we don’t, we will undermine ourselves.
One-to-one relationships are often our biggest challenges but they can help teach us what we need to learn in this lifetime. Betty promotes affirmations and visualization, meditation and using dreams to help ourselves on the path of self-understanding. When events happen ask yourself what is my positive lesson, how did I set it up and what do I need to change it so I don’t have to keep doing this again.
You can feel Betty’s energy coming through the recordings and her wisdom on relationships during this time of drugs and HIV/AIDS. People have said that they listen to her seminars over and over and learn something new every time.
Each seminar has two recordings: Side 1 and Side 2. This seminar is available in two .wav files.
- Each seminar is $18.00/title
- If you are interested in all 23 titles, the price will be $269.00 (35% discount).
