How to Stay Detached
To stay centered in our world today we need to be detached. 99% of people are reacting to everyone else. The only way to see yourself clearly and to help yourself stay calm is to detach. So often we are too close to events and situations to observe ourselves emotionally. So in order to do so, we must detach.
If we have the eyes to see and the ears to listen, we can learn from that inner voice that guides and directs our lives. By meditating, we can train our ears to listen and eyes to see and be on a more heightened level of detachment where we will be able to see our mistakes and then, hopefully, correct them.
Accepting responsibility for making your own decisions and choices in life is the way to succeed. We need to control our thoughts and watch that our actions are respectful, thoughtful and truthful. If things go wrong, ask yourself what was your part in it?
Most people take a negative approach to things rather than taking a positive, solving approach. When you see children acting out, its easy to understand their lack of control and their emotions . But when adults are acting as emotional 8-10 year old’s with their negativity, bickering and untruthfulness, try to step back and ask yourself why. When you are detached, it’s easier to see.
It’s unfortunate, but most people are not enlightened beings. They can only see as far as their energy field extends. The majority of people are functioning from a place of fear and insecurity. That’s why they act and react the way they do. This isn’t meant to be a put-down. It’s just pointing out and reconfirming that we are here on earth to learn, and to learn, we need to detach. Detachment gives us total freedom.
Detachment has nothing to do with cutting yourself off from people or being aloof. It doesn’t mean that you are withdrawing from a situation and it doesn’t mean that you can’t say anything. Being detached helps you to stay calm and centered and to not react to situations. Our guides (teachers) love us and see us through detached eyes; we need to do the same thing for ourselves while going through life.
Detachment has to do with our level of perception. It’s a level of consciousness or centeredness combined with high energy. The goal is that we want to always see and perceive life from our 3rd eye. It’s the one eye of truth. It helps us to see our experiences and others – how we set them up and what the lessons are that we need to learn.
If you hear rumors about yourself, Betty would say, “What others think of me is none of my business!” This is a great way to stay detached. We cannot change others; we can only change ourselves. To not care what others think can be learned – teach yourself to not care what others think.
Do not project your expectations on others. Work only to provide a positive, centered detached perspective in all that you experience. Forgive yourself and others for mistakes and keep learning from your experiences. You are responsible for the rate of your own growth, no one else’s. The more work you put into your own self improvement (which includes learning how to be detached), the faster your rate of growth.
When something happens, call truth out in a loving, humorous and positive way. Forgiving yourself and others by releasing memories, people, situations and relationships gives freedom. Try it!
There is no such thing as being in a bad place. All situations, all mental and emotional states, are opportunities for growth. We incarnated here on the earth plane in order to overcome things and to move beyond them. It’s a challenge and a great opportunity to learn and grow (although it may not feel like it at times). When you’ve accomplished overcoming an old pattern, take pride in saying, “I finally did it!” – acknowledge it. It feels great!
Learn to say yes to yourself and kindly say no to others when the situation requires it. Learning what makes you happy and not spreading yourself too thin helps to keep your energy up.
Only we can control our thoughts and actions. To keep your energy up, it helps to rise above inappropriate emotions that may be coming at you. Detaching (into the 3rd eye) in order to really understand what is going on enables you to control your thoughts and actions.
Tips on How to Stay Detached
- Call out truth in a loving way when you see it. Try to use humor in a positive way.
- Forgive yourself and others as soon as possible. If you regret something you have said or done in the past, reach out and talk.
- Release all anger, resentments, hurts, fears, situations, relationships, jealousy, and envy when possible to help yourself move forward.
- Remind yourself that what others think of me is none of my business!
- Ask and ye shall receive – if you don’t ask you may never get!
- People are led into your life to push our buttons. If your energy is high (helped through meditation), then you can learn not to react.
- Where your energy is determines how you see the world so keep your energy up. Connect with people who make you feel good and help you keep your energy up.
- Meditate daily for 20 minutes, use affirmations and visualizations and learn how to pay attention to and interpret your dreams.
There is no such thing as being in a bad place. All situations, all mental and emotional states are opportunities for growth. We have incarnated here on earth in order to overcome certain challenges and to move beyond them. Being here is a challenge and a great opportunity. When you have finally conquered an old pattern (and sometimes God will bring it back 3 times just to confirm that you have overcome it), you will be able to take great pride in saying “I finally did it!”
It may take time and may not be easy at times, but it’s SO worth it!
If you would like to hear Betty speak about Detachment, a link to her audio download on the subject is available below.
Detachment
By Betty Bethards
$18.00
This is a live, historical recording of Betty Bethards speaking about Detachment and how to help yourself stay centered. Ninety-nine percent of people are reacting to others. If you can get your energy up high enough then you can stop reacting to everyone else and take control of your life – on all levels. This is a great seminar on just how to detach and Betty has many insights and tips.
Betty promotes that by meditating you can stay centered and get above the hectic world around us. She talks about having anything we want if you learn to use meditation, affirmations and visualizations and working with your dreams. With these tools you can raise your energy, stay centered and remain detached.
You can feel Betty’s energy coming through the recordings and her wisdom on Detachment is timeless. People have said that they listen to her seminars over and over and learn something new every time.
Each seminar has two recordings: Side 1 and Side 2. This seminar is available in two .wav files.
- Each seminar is $18.00/title
- If you are interested in all 23 titles, the price will be $269.00 (35% discount).
