Successful Habits Help Your Inner Journey

Make a list of goals to better your life - learn from Betty Bethards
Make a list of goals and track them to help make changes and better your life

Successful Habit Strategies

  • Make a list of all habits, attitudes, or negative situations you have successfully broken or eliminated.

  • Make a list of ten ideas you’ve had and followed through on to successful completion.

  • Ask yourself what provokes any habit or negative thoughts to come back that are not life enriching? Write them down and analyze them.

Little Changes Can Make A Difference

    • Make a change to your schedule
    • Reward yourself
    • Use the technique of waiting 10 minutes before responding when upset
    • Reschedule your normal habit to a different time
    • Work to overcome your fear of consequences
    • Use relaxation techniques
    • Use visualizations and affirmations
    • Do meditation to support your changes.

Discover your triggers:

  • Emotional states: anger, resentment, loneliness, boredom, tension, poor self-image, fatigue
  • Self-defeating attitudes (friendly enemies): this will relax me, one more time won’t hurt, this is a special occasion, etc.

How to have Successful Habits

In keeping with Betty’s direct, simplified and straight-forward method of communication, below are tips on how to change your behavior and instill successful habits.

  • Begin with the intent to change your life into a joyful, love-filled, rewarding experience. The truth of your inner being is stronger than any habit, person, idea or situation. Decide to experience this truth as fully as possible and you will be led step-by-step along the way.
  • Be sensitive to your own needs. Stay in tune with your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual requirements. No one else can do it for you. Deep relaxation every day is very important to begin your successful living orientation.
  • Take risks, branch out into new creative activities, do something you’ve never done before. Clean out your closet, drawers or entire house of all unused or unappreciated stuff.
  • Understand that you are responsible for everything in your life: attitudes, actions, health, happiness, resourcefulness, advancement, learning, growth, financial success, love, inner fulfillment.
  • Identify the principles by which you choose to live your life. Examine them carefully. They either work or they don’t work. Upgrade your level of understanding to include cosmic truths that heighten awareness, give purpose and specialness to all that you do; and make room for paradoxes within your own nature.
  • Stick to working on your own problems, transforming your own life, following your own guidance. Do not compare your growth or lack of it with others; do not try to shape up anybody else or tell others what is best for them to do. Observe others, but do not get caught in their pain, beliefs, opinions and judgments or you will lose your own center.
  • Keep it simple. This begins with self-honesty. Always be lovingly honest with yourself and lovingly honest with others. Do what you feel you really want to do and what is best for you. Things that don’t seem to be working in your life can be eliminated or transformed through your own insight. We are not meant to live in confusion, tension and disharmony.
  • Realize that the brain doesn’t get rid of old habit patterns. It learns new, more encompassing and satisfying ones that compete with the old ones and eventually overrides them. We must expand into the new and not dwell on the old.
  • Relieve yourself of dichotomous (dividing into two parts or either/or) thinking. Don’t create sharp mental boundaries. For example, I’m either on or off my diet; I’m a smoker or a non-smoker.

Ask yourself the following questions as honestly as possible

  1. What do I really want? (important position, to be the president of the United States, hermit in a mountain cabin, a songwriter, a highly-paid athlete, movie star, Nobel Peace Prize winner, fame, money, health, a good husband, a wonderful wife, to have children, marry a millionaire, etc.)
  2. Create your ideal day: Imagine you now have everything in your life you want. Describe in clear detail everything about yourself you desire – your dress, attitudes, work, associates, and environment.
  3. What are your present resources and interests that will help you achieve this vision?
  4. What is the shortest, easiest route to accomplish your goals? What is the smartest?
  5. Select 12 people throughout the history of this planet to be your support and resource team. Select them for qualities you admire, skills they possess, and levels of insight or service achieved. While meditating, in a quiet moment or before you go to bed, ask each one to give you some advice or information on how best to achieve what you really want and write down your impressions. This is your nurturing, brainstorming support team; they help provide a positive environment in which you will flourish.
  6. Select one person you trust in your current life to be a check point for accomplishing your goals. Create a schedule for action and discuss your plans. Check in with one another at agreed upon intervals to help keep you on target.
  7. Your goal(s) should be to live successfully with positive results using the life skills that we develop as we continue along our journey of self-awareness. Self-control is not an all-or-nothing proposition. It unfolds as responsibility, direction, positive self-acceptance, honesty, discipline and awareness.
  8. Recognize that life is a process of change, and that giving up old beliefs, images, habits, ideas and moving on to new things is the natural way to grow and reach new levels of positive self-expression.

It’s not easy to change but it’s SO worth it. Life is on your side. Each positive change opens up new opportunities. Have faith in your inner self.

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